The Ultimate Revelation Of A Letter To My Younger Self
Updated: Feb 3, 2019
As you know it was my birthday the other week and my parents came over and my Dads transferred our home movies (all of them) to USB. We were watching them and remembering sometimes. Also slightly cringing.
There I was, in some of the videos missing two front teeth. Making friends with anyone I met and being confident, opening presents at Christmas and all my birthdays. Seeing my parents in their younger years and even my grandparents who have either past or now have dementia and lost themselves. I would say to anyone, take videos as much as you can photo are great but videos capture the essence of the situation, noises, and voices.
I started thinking about me as a younger person and what advice I could have done with to help me get thru tough days or moments, that seem to be so bad. what would I say to my younger self if I had a time machine (to be fair I'd probably do more than see my younger self)?
So here goes...
It's Amy (puzzled look from younger Amy?!). I'm you but in the future. Yes, there are flying cars and places like the Willy Wonka Chocolate Factory (not going to dash a young girls dream lol).
I've come back from the future to see you and give you some tips and tell you about your life I think you should know.
WHAT IF THE ALGEBRA TEACHERS ARE REALLY PIRATES, AND ARE USING US TO FIND THE "X"
School will suck and will be bullied pretty much every year. One year you will be pushed in the toilets, then punched and kicked, all because you stuck up for someone who was being picked on. The school years will be the worst years of your life. But, and amazingly there is a but, these times make you stronger. You are comfortable with your own company, you will find this inner strength you didn't even know was there. Stay strong and you will come out of school knowing that nothing will feel as low as you did there. Plus surprisingly you never lose that spark to stick up for people no matter what happened in the past you still have that drive to not let other people be bullied.
A FRIEND WHO UNDERSTANDS YOUR TEARS IS MUCH MORE VALUABLE THAN A LOT OF FRIENDS THAT ONLY KNOW YOUR SMILE
During your younger years you will make lots of friends, Mum and Dad buy a touring caravan (the one you tow on the back of your car). You get lots of pen pals and seem to just chat to anyone. At home/school, you drop in and out of groups through the years. Even in your early 20s, you will have different friends. One piece of advice, you grow out of friends, you find new friends. You will have friend gems that will always be there for you. Don't worry as if they are true friends they will be by your side whatever.
These are a few of my gems.....
And I can tell you now, you will meet some awesome people on your journey, some you stay friends with, some you may fall out with. You will have friends in Chicago, Cincinnati, Seattle, Netherlands, Belgium, Sweden, Singapore and Australia (I know can you believe it and they are all so amazing, friendly and welcoming - some even let you stay in their house, welcome you into their family and be there for you even tho they are miles away). Your UK friends are the same, they even have children and you become Auntie Amy and be godmother to some incredible little people, that you get to be part of their childhood. Take photos and videos to make them embarrassed when they hit their milestone birthdays. So whatever happens to you in the early years, pah don't worry.
FAMILY: WE MAY NOT HAVE IT ALL TOGETHER, BUT TOGETHER WE HAVE IT ALL
Family can sometimes be harder than other things. Grandparents pass away and it's sad, but you believe that they watch over you. I remember our Nan teaching us to play piano and just making a racket. Malt milk biscuits whenever we were there. Her apron filled with palm violets (those sweets that taste like soap uck!), and the smell of lavender in the house. Her amazing lemon meringue pies and burgers, OMG, so good. But you have those memories to cherish them and never forget.
You may fall out with extended family. But Mum and Dad are amazing. They support, care and love you so much. You will be an annoying little brat and a stroppy teenager and they will still love and care for you. Your parents will be your rock during the whole thing. Mum will be there for advice, until your early 20s, you will listen, then you will just do the opposite (sorry Mum). But she's your best friend and you can always rely on her no matter what you've done. Dad will be sarcastic, never let him answer a door when a guy comes to pick you up for a date as he will be so embarrassing!! Plus Dad is great at the DIY thing so be nice to him and sweet as you will need his help building stuff and putting up shelves. Plus work advice and general Dad stuff.
BE SOMEONE NO ONE THOUGHT YOU COULD BE
Your career is one place where you kick butt. You kick it at interviews and get any job, you impress and work hard. Probably watching your parents have that ethic of progressing and do the best job. You work your way up from the bottom, going through adversity but who doesn't. But your work is your comfort zone. So don't worry about school results and spoiler alert you didn't have high GCSEs results. You will go from strength to strength after school. You start off at the bottom doing a crappy office job during the week and at weekend working in Clark's (shoe shop). You move around in office jobs and then get into logistics and shipping (you can blame Dad for that for those weekends he took you into work and made you highlight the driver's routes on maps **the days before sat navs I feel old (I'll explain sat navs another day). You take every challenge thrown at you, presentation to a customer, fine. Presentation to 50 people, bring it on. Running a department, successful in everything you put your mind too. Yes!!
BE WITH SOMEONE THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. THAT'S IT
Awww Amy, the things I want to tell you about your ex-boyfriends and how to stay away from them. However, I won't. I know, I know. But every time a guy broke your heart, you've cried a river, you will be abused mentally and even physically, you will put on some weight and feel rubbish about yourself and watch Friends (an amazing show that's awesome) from start to finish to help you get over the break-up. You will come out the other side, stronger and more aware that you don't need validation from a guy to feel good about you. That any guy that gets to be with you is one lucky man and should treat you well. Mental and physical abuse is not good but you know the signs now, your more aware and you know you can walk away even if you are tied into a relationship however that is.
EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY IN THE END. IF IT'S NOT OKAY, IT'S NOT THE END.
So young Amy in summary, your life will have shit storms (excuse the french), you will have depressive moments and sad moments. But you will also have epic, amazing, fun, laughing so much you make no noise and your eyes water moments. You will travel to Singapore, Malaysia, the USA as well as around Europe, even with your stomach issues. You will travel alone and with friends. Also - you have amazing hair and you constantly change the colour (just to keep people on their toes lol, Side note - never colour your hair from blonde to dark red - it will go PURPLE trust me!)
Be kind to yourself, don't beat yourself up and worry so much. Keep a positive attitude and never lose who you are, that kind, caring and lovable person. Who can talk to anyone and is bubbly. A great friend to all and someone that is one hell of a chatty person.
Lots of Love Amy, from Amy. xxx
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